"There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred, of what is the spirit made, what is worth living for and what is worth dying for. The answer to each is the same. Only love." -Don Juan Demarco
Watching the movie Don Juan Demarco to remind myself of the beautiful side of the seduction game and its ability to open people up to become beautiful. After reading The Game, it feels good to have this answering perspective. I also like the fable in that movie that reminds me that we create our existence in our minds, and we are responsible for making everything magical.
When I am asked for recommendations for books on dating and such, I often lend these three books and tell women to read them in the following order: "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg Behrendt and Luz Trucillo; "Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either," by Ian Kerner; and "Enchanted Love," by Marianne Williamson. I would also say "What if the Buddha Dated?" is a pretty fine read.
One of my intentions this year is to focus on my romantic life. It is a wee bit more complicated for me to find appropriate people to date because of my strange blend of an "alternative lifestyle," yet I have to believe and move forward in faith.
Speaking of which, I was talking to a friend of mine and telling him of my little girl fear of putting on my big girl "boots of power" and that it was like getting on a plane where I was going to land somewhere that I couldn't speak the language. He reminded me that in his many travels (he's been a guitar tech for a number of stars) there has always been people when you land with whom you can communicate. It may be in broken English or in signs and pictures, but there are always people there to help you.
This is logical and rational, and I know from my own travels that although it may be really challenging, one survives and figures out how to make things work. But my little girl was doing the thinking, drowning out any logic that might have gotten through with her child-like thinking and fear in a wailing voice.
My little girl needs to be reassured that she is not responsible for anything related to this and that she will be safe and protected. Not an irrational desire, but a strange thought nonetheless.
But the other thing for this coming year, besides stepping into my powerful future self, I am responsible for creating the belief that the kind of love and relationship that I desire is forthcoming.
So I will return to watching Don Juan, and think about what love looks like in the life of a kinky, spiritual, slightly weird woman...
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